The Lighter Side Of The Dark

cokedupjesus:

jinxybee:

insouciantgeek:

thejohnblog:

Who are the courageous ones in the breast cancer conversation? The ones you don’t hear.

I have something to say to Olivia Barker.

     Really? REALLY? Look, I’m no huge fan of Jolie, but printing an article essentially saying it’s classy to just shut up and not talk about it is just plain idiotic. Her own personal dislike of Jolie is pretty plain, because who could really be this hateful and even indicate she is enjoying the attention from announcing her masectomy?

     Just because Falco did not want to make hers public, doesn’t make it ‘Classy.’ Last I checked, Jolie has used her celebrity to help people. She has been private about her public life in pretty much everything, and unlike celebrity Teen Moms or youthful ignorant attention whores like Bieber and Lohan, she doesn’t strike me as someone pining for pity.

Today is the FIRST time I knew details about the BRCA1 gene. It’s due to her speaking out about this. Considering Olivia Barker had a double mastectomy herself, I almost feel like this is akin to someone saying something horribly tasteless about Asians then saying, “It’s okay, my step mom is Asian.”

She should be ashamed for this.

This wasn’t just a “preventative measure.” She had a traumatic procedure done and if anyone thinks that decision was anything other than brave then what the hell do you call it?

What he said.

I read this article and I thought it was like she was saying “shut up. You don’t have cancer. I do. My story is worse. Your story isn’t relevant and you don’t deserve to have a voice. BItch.” (And the bitch is the “bitch” us normal looking women utter under our breaths when we see a gorgeous lady that we are actually quite jealous of.)

So all of you and a bunch of other people on the comments are attacking a woman who has cancer, had this procedure and didn’t like the general response to Angelina Jolie’s op ed in the NYT.

I read the article. There are a few snipes at Angelina Jolie, but I would feel that the majority of it is aimed at people like you, reading this and the op ed. The people saying Jolie is brave and heroic and courageous. The people making this out to be the gift of gifts for women.

She’s not saying it’s better to be quiet, she’s saying it’s better to shine the light on other people.

You all want to jump and defend a woman who most likely doesn’t need it. That’s why she can write a NYT piece on the subject and get a procedure like this, she’s already on top of the heap. She can already get the best help possible. She can take such a hit and continue forward.

Everyone seems to be running to crown her and defend her, all while clearly stepping on people who are dealing with this or have dealt with this.

You’re squatting over top of the people she is speaking publicly to help, including the author of this piece. A woman who went through worse and yet is a catty bitch for being a little sore over the public response.

Angelina Jolie did a good thing today. And it can help people. But your response to this is disgusting to me. You shine the spotlight while claiming this will help all women, but when one of those women speak up it’s a collision. A mangled mess.

I believe the article and the op ed are fine. Breast cancer and cancer in general is terrible to deal with. Watching loved ones wither away is one of the worst things possible in life and we need action and awareness to try and prolong lives the best that we can.

You’re going to die, but that doesn’t mean you have to die like this. You can get help. That’s the good from today.

But it’s the public response that boggles my mind. You’re quick to crown Angelina Jolie and single her out as an angel, but even quicker to denounce someone who is actually suffering and all because she disagrees and feels that this is another example among numerous examples.

It’s a disease that touches us all at one point or another. I’ve been there. I see a lot of my mother in the Edie Falco example, working until the end and not letting a disease define her life. Falco lucked out of course.

The only tasteless thing I’ve seen today is the response from all sides on the topic. What Angelina Jolie did is nothing more special than what numerous other women have done. Because she’s been in movies and is well known doesn’t make her any more brave or courageous than other women. It will help and it’s good, but to act like this is the moment that changes everything sort of cheapens it all in my eyes. You’re all playing the fiddle while Rome is still burning.

Considering Olivia Barker had a double mastectomy herself, I almost feel like this is akin to someone saying something horribly tasteless about Asians then saying, “It’s okay, my step mom is Asian.”

And this is just silly and tasteless in itself.

CUJO crushed it. Again.